Remember the “Trust” game from our childhood? The one where we would stand up straight next to a group of our peers, arms crossed with our eyes bravely closed and fall (willingly) back into the crowd, hoping that every individual will do their part to “catch” you? That’s the one I’m talking about. Working in the cannabis industry is often just like that game. You are going blindly into a leap of faith with your ideas and dreams and hoping that the people you chose to catch you, will do exactly that. Except this time, instead of the humiliation of falling in front of your peers, you risk the potential of losing those relationships, your reputation, your sanity and oftentimes respect for yourself.
As one might expect, trust issues are ignited from our experiences in life. Childhood trauma is typically where our trust issues come from, however the decisions we make as an adult can also impact our willingness to have faith in others. That type of lack-mindset will end up hindering us from opportunities to succeed in this industry. Cannapreneurs struggling with PTSD, depression and personality disorders will have a harder time than most finding the ability to do business with others, even if they are your friends. Actually, especially if they are your friends. We all hope for the best when it comes to working with people we love and are close to, but not everyone is putting their best face forward or intentions for this industry. And sometimes it takes working together to discover all sides of a person or company.
So how do you know if you have trust issues? Does the potential of partnering give you anxiety? You are not alone! Aside from the mental health conditions that I mentioned above, there are a few signs to look for to see if you fear interfacing in the industry.
- You have a hard time believing what others tell you.
- You expect the worst from people and outcomes.
- You tend to keep people at a distance.
If we are being honest, most of us have been guilty of at least one of these things in just the first few weeks of this new year, so how can we turn those red flags into white ones and let the collaboration in 2019 begin?
Trust yourself unconditionally. I used to have a hard time trusting myself, and in order for others to trust me, I had to change that. How could I be a good partner to work with if I was unable to trust myself? My mom used to always tell me, “You can’t love anybody until you love yourself first” and the same rule should apply for trust. Trust yourself and you will trust others.
Learn from your mistakes. When history repeats itself in our lives it’s because we did not learn from the situation or person the first time. Find out what it is that you need to heal and forgive in order to move forward so that your career can as well!
Build the foundation slowly. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither should your trust with partnerships. If you truly are in it together for the long run, start small and work your way to big things together. If there are red flags that continue to come up, it is a lot easier to leave the situation before you invent time and money into something that is not for your highest and best interest.
If you see something, say something. This phrase works well even in a working environment. When something doesn’t look right or sit well in your gut, it is up to you bring it up to your partner before it festers into something bigger, and often times worse than what it could have been if it was resolved sooner than later.
Love unconditionally. The opposite of love is fear and when we fear others, we have a hard time trusting them. Pour love into yourself and it will overflow into your work and home life. The more we love others, the more love will come to us. The trust will come naturally once we fill the space where fear once resided. Love is and will always be the answer.
Contracts. Contracts keep friendships. They maintain trust. End of story.
The cannabis industry thrives on trust. As patients, we trust the plant and it’s growers and manufacturers to give us what we need each and every day for our optimal health. As entrepreneurs we trust the plant to create a viable source of income for us to thrive and give ourselves and family the life we all believe we deserve. As a community we trust that other citizens will allow us to carry out our duties as professionals in the cannabis space. And we have to be grateful with the little victories when social media trusts us to share our views and business regarding the cannabis plant on a public platform. Our community needs trust. We cannot avoid it. We must create it, because like love and happiness and success, no one is going to do it for us, but ourselves.
Stay tuned as the Mommy Jane brings you along her journey to building a brand and her path to entrepreneurship.
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