As we discussed in part 1 of how you can handle conflicting relationships in the workplace, we covered the concept of you taking 100% responsibility for your life and your emotions. We also went through The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale and how you can help yourself manage your emotions. Once you’ve become aware of these two especially the first concept, then you’ll need to keep repeating these. What do I mean about repeating these? You’ll need to remember to decide to take 100% control of your life every day until your life changes. As your life changes, you’ll still need to keep reminding yourself to be in a calm controlled state. You’ll also need to read or listen to the book I mentioned over, over, over, and over again.
The reason why you need to repeat it is somewhat similar to when you learned a new skill at a career for the first time. You can’t just perform the activity once because you instantly forget about doing it. Your mind will forget about doing it easily. The actual doing of the task you learned is why it needs to be engraved in your mind, repeatedly. When this happens, then your entire world will change as your mind will get used to being positive and taking control of the decisions you make.
These two suggestions will help you not only prevent any conflicts in the workplace but they will give you the ability to resolve any conflicts you feel is not serving you. You realize it’s better to get along and grow your business to soaring sales for your goal than to argue about little things that won’t matter when your business tanks or succeeds.
Now, that we’ve covered these concepts, it’s time to get into the real meat. I’ll share with you more ways that will help you even more to become a better business owner, employee or a better manager. These are tools you’ll use and hopefully continue on a daily basis. Otherwise, it won’t work if you don’t do anything I suggest. Now we’ll dive into therapeutic healing techniques or Thought Field Therapy Techniques, open communication, and having an empathetic affinity toward your coworkers.
Introducing You To The Thought Field Therapy Technique
When you want to get rid of your fears, phobias, frustrations, anxiety, depression, and internal conflicts within yourself, you may often find it hard to resolve these for good. These mental and physical pains are where Thought Field Therapy comes in. Thought Field Therapy is a method that can help ease any conflicts or tension you’re feeling toward another co-worker or even your boss. It’s a tapping technique that reduces any mental and physical pain by using your fingers to tap certain meridian points throughout your body. It’s technique that Roger Callahan discovered while working as a psychologist many years ago. He found that the usual psychology methods he used never worked like this tapping technique did when it came to helping patients heal their physical and mental pain. It’s can also be called EFT that another professional, Gary Craig, integrated and recreated, but it’s the same method. I use this all the time whenever I’m feeling angry with my spouse. It also helps me ease any mental and physical pain. It reduces my pain by allowing me to feel 100% better and gives me an opportunity to solve my relationship issues.
When you feel better, then you’re not angry, because the anger you feel is no longer there. Now, I must stress this important fact which is this; You Must Do This Technique Repeatedly When You Feel Mental And Physical Pain. You can’t just use this method once and think that this pain won’t come back again. It needs to be practiced over, and over again, so you don’t have to feel the feeling you usually get with certain adverse conflicting situations or events that happen in your life. This technique will help you ease your anger toward another coworker in the workplace which means you will have a better understanding of the conflicting situation and be in a calmer state to communicate with the individual or individuals. You can download a diagram copy of the thought field technique here. It will show you where you need to tap throughout your body and how much to tap. All you need is your fingers then you’re free to tap away. Always remember to tap when you’re in a middle of a frustrating argument with your boss or coworker because it will help you become calmer.
When in doubt always communicate effectively to the person you’re having a problematic argument with because they only want to be heard. Their side of the story is just as important, if not more, than your side of the story. It may seem like you can’t communicate because all you do is argue. Although you must hear what they say, you also have to deliver your side of the story after they’ve calmly said their story. They know you listened to them spill their truths to you, so they will return the favor and listen to yours. Also, it’s important to have the person in charge or in command to be there to hear both sides. The person in control will help, if things get “too heated,” to simmer down the tension.
The primal being of a person wants to be nurtured, accepted, loved and understood. When you project love to them, then you’re naturally appealing to their needs. Not only do you appeal to their needs, but you also appeal to your needs as well. Empathetic affinity is having an understanding of the other person’s view and natural liking of their perspective. It’s not enough to just put yourself in their shoes, but you must like being in their shoes as you view their perspective. When you practice seeing their side of the story through their eyes. You will be more understanding and genuinely interested in what they have to say. It will make you communicate that much more productive easily. It will ultimately help you resolve the conflict that’s in the workplace. Overall, as soon as you keep this up and do these consistently then you’ll be better off than when you started the first time.
To read part one of Cindy’s article, click here.